What I thought about for 2,000 miles
As the miles ticked by, I thought about a lot of trivial things, such as "why do people tailgate me in the left lane and then, when I move to the right, move over and tailgate me there, too?" However, I also found myself pondering a weightier issue: what will happen to my child if her dad and I are suddenly wiped out by a bus? I have no idea why I settled on something so morbid, but indeed my brain got stuck there. For hundreds of miles.
I did contact an attorney about this matter a couple years ago. However, apparently you can't just issue a decree as to what will happen to your offspring if you kick the bucket. You have to address the whole kit and caboodle - your entire estate and what will happen to it if you expire. Both our kit and our caboodle are pretty far in debt. It hardly seems worthwhile to address the property issues at this point.
We are mostly in agreement about what should happen to our daughter, though, and have passed that information along to family members. If my other half and I both perish, we want my sisters to decide between themselves which of them is best able to raise another child (at that particular moment, at least). Basically, just do what is best for their niece. They are to do this without bickering and without the delivery of any sisterly nougies. If neither sister can care for A, we'd like my sister-in-law and brother-in-law to petition for custody. We really have no idea how these things work from a legal perspective, but those are our wishes.
Obviously my plan is to live long enough to raise my daughter and then to be a complete and utter nuisance to her every day of her adult life. But if I can't, I just want to be assured that she'll be okay and that she'll become the person she's meant to become. I want her to be a free-thinker, free to choose her own religion and way of life. I want her to take chances and to be extraordinary, but to live kindly and gently.
I hope my sisters are taking notes here. If my daughter registers as a Republican, I will never forgive you! (Even free-thinkers have limits, people.)